23rd May 2018 

Herne Hill
South London
tel: 07879 424 181
About Counselling #01

About Counselling

How does counselling help?

Counselling provides a safe, confidential, professional and neutral place to talk through emotional problems. The sort of emotional problems that make us behave in ways that we are getting tired of and would like to change e.g being snappy at work or with family, loss of motivation, withdrawal from close ones, feeling depressed, tearful too often, over eating, drinking or overworking.

Spending time in counselling helps us to filter through these emotions and behaviour patterns and gives us a chance to understand what is going on. It gives us a second chance. It gives us an opportunity to find other ways of doing things. Clients often speak of being back in the driving seat of life again.

Psychosynthesis counselling utilises a range of techniques to assist this process.

How can talking to someone make a difference?

Research has shown that it helps to talk to somebody neutral who has no connection to your personal life - in complete confidentiality. This provides a safe environment and a new perspective from which to expand your options. Isolated and trying to cope alone we go round in circles and get stuck, when we want to move on.

What is the difference between short term counselling and long term therapy?

People choose short term counselling who like to decide on a set number of sessions for their counselling,- 6 or 12 are common choices. In short term counselling the focus is on a particular issue eg. bereavement or stress at work. The clients feelings and responses to this issue will be talked through and fresh perspectives,insight and understanding explored.

In-depth therapy - which is closer to psychotherapy is open ended. People choose this type of therapy who want to explore the roots of their underlying feelings of anxiety or unhappiness. In-depth therapy offers the opportunity to take these feelings seriously. It also suits people who wish to explore events from the past. Clients come to open ended therapy saying things like they feel that they are just surviving - and wish to be thriving and have a sense that 'life can be better than this'.

What sort of outcome can I expect from counselling?

The most frequent thing that clients say to me is that they feel stronger and more emotionally resilient, as a result of counselling. It is this resilience that helps them to get back on track and feel confident again. During counselling people are able to build up their resources and review their current coping mechanisms and if they are unhelpful - to gradually update them. The emotional resilience gained in counselling helps us deal with the ups and downs of life differently and to respond with increasing confidence to life's changes and opportunities.

How do I know which type of counsellor to choose?

Nowadays, there are so many types of counselling that it is confusing. It could be useful to look at the web sites of the two most respected professional bodies:-
The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy BACP visit bacp and
The United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapy UKCP visit ukcp
for useful information.

Choosing a counsellor will be a combination of choosing a training that you like the sound of, and perhaps more importantly choosing a particular counsellor that you feel you could have a good connection with.

This is because research has shown that the quality of the relationship between the therapist and the client has a greater influence on client outcomes than the specific type of psychotherapy used by the therapist.

So it is well worth making telephone contact or perhaps having an introductory session with more than one counsellor in order to make your decision.

I am experieced at working with individual clients who:
  • are having difficulties in relationships
  • are coping with a separation or divorce
  • have experienced loss
  • are feeling lonely and isolated
  • are lacking self esteem
  • have suffered, abuse, shock or trauma
  • are feeling they are surviving but would like to be thriving.

and with couples who are:
  • facing life changes that cause stress and disagreements.
  • find themselves rowing all the time.
  • find that the enjoyment has gone and things are dull and lifeless.
  • dealing with children leaving home.
  • upset because of an affair.
  • having sexual difficulties.
  • having problems adjusting to step families.